What You're Feeling
Betrayed
Betrayal is anger with grief underneath it — trust was extended, and something happened that broke it, whether through a lie, a broken promise, or someone choosing themselves at your expense.
Common thoughts
- “How could they do this?”
- “I can't trust my own judgment anymore.”
- “Was any of it real?”
Body sensations
- A sick, dropping feeling in the stomach
- Racing thoughts
- Difficulty sleeping
What helps
- Letting yourself feel both the anger and the grief
- Talking to someone who isn't involved
- Deciding what you need before deciding what you'll do next
What makes it worse
- Making a permanent decision in the first wave of the feeling
- Isolating instead of getting support